Black/White striped dress~ Forever 21
Yellow Bag~ Forever 21
Flip Flops~ Old Navy $5.00
Exotic Earrings~ Forever 21
I’ve been seriously neglecting my lovely blog for awhile now, and for good reasons. I’ve been having crazy health problems and I still won’t know exactly what’s been wrong with me until the end of this week. I’ve been having excrutiating pelvic pains, headaches and I’m now totally addicted to pain pills. I’m like a small little crack head waiting for a hit of vicodin or Tylenol extra strength. Eating is a problem, Taking a huge breath is a problem and even standing for longer than 10 minutes has me doubling over. Woe is me! I will say that I can’t wait to get the results so that I can move forward in trying to fix whatever the hell is wrong with me….That is, If it’s fixable.
If that in itself isn’t shitty enough, I just had to end a 17 year long friendship. They do say that you find out who your real friends are when you’re ill. Tis’ true. Here’s my little rant on why the friendship needed to die:
This “Friend” is a drug addict. As much as I tried to help her with her problem, You can’t really help someone that doesn’t want it. She drinks while driving, Smokes pot every single day, Snorts coke whenever the mood hits her, and after a few years of her off the wall behavior and lack of respect for anyone other than herself I distanced myself from her for a good year. She would literally beg me to give her another chance, Saying that’s she’s a different person now. So I gave her a second chance. This past month she and I have grown somewhat closer again….Until she started asking me for money.
Now, I don’t have a problem giving to a friend when she needs it for food or gas or something simple, but I am by no means “Balling” yet financially. I work while going to school full time and on top of all that I am in the process of trying to start my own business. I didn’t exactly have money to give to her, but I did it anyway with no hesitation. The day I gave her the money we ended up going to the mall to “hang” out. This chick had the nerve to take the money that was just given to her (For a parking ticket she say’s) and buys 2 tops with MY money. I was pretty much speechless, but I did give her a mean side eye. She then proceeds to do a nervous laugh and say’s, “Of, course I’ll pay you back in a few day’s”. I rolled my eyes and we proceed to go to her car. For 2 full weeks after that she pretty much blew my phone up asking me for MORE money. Figuring I just got punked the first time, I didn’t even respond to her calls or text messages. I was irritated. Especially since she never had the decency to even offer to pay me back before opening her mouth to ask for more money.
Anywizzle, She calls once again, Leaves a message and in the message her voice Is shaky and near tears. “I know I don’t deserve to get anything else from you, But I was wondering if you could possibly loan me $20. I promise you with everything that I’ll pay you back at 8 tonight”-End of message. Being the generous, or stupid person that I am, I felt sorry for her…So I called her back. I mean, How is 20 bucks going to hurt me if my childhood friend really needs it that bad? So I let her borrow it.
This said friend calls me the day after I just got out of the hospital. Her being my supposed best friend, She knew about my hospital stay and knew the severity of the situation and how scared and in pain I was.
This still didn’t stop her the day after from asking me to take a piss test for a job that she just applied for because she has an enormous amount of weed in her system!!! Now, my obvious first response was “Hell to the naw, and why would you ask me that!?!” But after weighing my options, The fact that she still has my money and a notebook of mine that is very important to me that I accidently left In the back seat of my car, I figured that she’s trifling enough to hold those things hostage if I said no. I said yes, Just to get my stuff back…and I also had no intention of talking to her trifling ass after that. I also figured that she wouldn’t get away with sneaking my urine into the drug test since they usually crack down on people that even attempt to do that.
The very next day (Day of drug test) I was still in pain. Obviously. I’m in bed not feeling well. My phone is dead, and even then, I could really care less if she called at that point. My first priority is making sure I’m okay. I pretty much fell asleep curled up in a little ball and didn’t wake up until the next afternoon. Once I did awake I immediately charged my phone and sent her a text letting her know what happened. I actually thought that she might have enough sense to call the job a loss since she wasn’t able to take her own test, or find someone else to take it for her since it was literally a day since I last spoke with her. This chick then proceeds to text me back saying it’s my fault that she missed HER drug test and that I should have common courtesy. After “Woo-sahing” I very tactfully let her know that if she wasn’t a pot head she would have been able to take her OWN drug test instead of relying on other people to do it for her. I also explained that it’s common courtesy to pay someone back in a timely manner when they loan you money…and to also not go shopping with the change they’ve just given to you!
Long story short, That friendship ended with her saying that she used my kindness to get money from me because she knew she could and also that because of that missed job opportunity, She hopes that I die.
I proceed to tell her that she’s a sad sorry piece of shit and that if she had to use me for a few dollars then she needs to pick her game up, Put the crack pipe down, Break up with her useless boyfriend who didn’t even have two dimes to loan her, and grow the fuck up.
All in all, Your probably shaking her head right now and calling me all kinds of silly names. But the truth is that I’d probably do it again if I could. I don’t think that I’m at fault for being a great friend, I just used my kindness toward the wrong person.
Now I’m on a best friend search. I’ll be taking applications today :)
Anyone else had a friendship go sour?
